Shame is the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing we are flawed and therefore unworthy of acceptance and belonging. Brene Brown In my previous post I was trying to describe a bit how the shame motive is embedded in our social and cultural relationships, and how it works invisibly (unconsciously) in us – like … More Veils of Shame in Family System – Part 2
In every family system, as well as in all relationships we are in, there are spoken and unspoken rules about privacy and boundaries, about what is allowed and what is not. Shame function in relationships is like set of rules which always make people feeling belittled and unworthy. Shame keeps people in fear and under … More Veils of Shame in Family System – Part 1
Systemic Constellations method of working with persistent issues by exploring natural orders in systems was firstly formulated by Bert Hellinger about 40 years ago as Orders of Love. Since then it has been developing by the author as well as by other practitioners, with the name more popular now – the Systemic Constellation Work . … More Orders of Love – Orders of Success
One of my favourite thinkers, Rumi – a poet from XIII century – said: Don’t grieve. Anything you lose comes round in another form. I would like to complete Rumi’s words by a notion of love in grief related to relationships. Grief and loss are inseparable aspects of Life…there is nothing permanent in Life – … More Letting go – an art of grief process
Are you afraid of being spontaneous? Do you feel sometimes like missing your true Self in everyday routines and in your attitudes in relationships? Every time when I introduce the concept of Systemic Constellation Work (SCW) to people who don’t have any direct experience with this method – I do some kind of self-examination, asking … More Authenticity and Systemic Constellation Work
What if an entanglement in relationship is not an obstacle to love flow but a necessary aspect to create deep bonds in love? When I work with my clients on their issues in relationships with themselves and with others – I used to use a word entanglement, with a meaning of something difficult (negative) like … More Entanglements – basic bonds in relationships
The Source of Love is in the heart, not in the mind. A nursing home; a dutiful daughter (let’s call her Chris) visits her old father regularely there, and he always enjoys seeing her. She asks him routinely how is he going, and he answers by telling little stories from his life there. Then he … More The Language of Love or Prisoners of Conditioned Mind
At our last Systemic Constellation workshop on 4th of November participants had an opportunity to have a direct experience of a Mind-Spirit Constellation. It was done in small groups of three; one person was a Client, another one was a representative of a Parent for the Client, and the third person was representing the Client’s … More Love can stop your Fear…Fear can stop your Loving…
At the Systemic Constellation Workshop on 26th of Aug., I offered a mediation exercise about Unknown, created by Bert Hellinger. It was received by participants with a positive feedback, so I thought to publish it here for the guests of this blog. UNKNOWN (quoted after B.Hellinger live presentation in Kuala Lumpur 2009) (the best way … More Known and Unknown
Systems in our Life - Entanglement and Success 