Shame is the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing we are flawed and therefore unworthy of acceptance and belonging. Brene Brown In my previous post I was trying to describe a bit how the shame motive is embedded in our social and cultural relationships, and how it works invisibly (unconsciously) in us – like … More Veils of Shame in Family System – Part 2
In every family system, as well as in all relationships we are in, there are spoken and unspoken rules about privacy and boundaries, about what is allowed and what is not. Shame function in relationships is like set of rules which always make people feeling belittled and unworthy. Shame keeps people in fear and under … More Veils of Shame in Family System – Part 1
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What happens when the treatment method that works best makes no sense in traditional psychology? That is the dilemma of Systemic Constellations. It’s an interesting alternate treatment method based on the idea that consciousness can and should be treated at the group level. That is to say, individuals can…
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Paradoxes of love are like roots of a tree; staying hidden, they give strength, depth and meaning. The paradox we are going to examine today is that the source of loving others is in your love to yourself. You can’t authentically love others if you don’t love…
Systemic Constellations method of working with persistent issues by exploring natural orders in systems was firstly formulated by Bert Hellinger about 40 years ago as Orders of Love. Since then it has been developing by the author as well as by other practitioners, with the name more popular now – the Systemic Constellation Work . … More Orders of Love – Orders of Success
Are you afraid of being spontaneous? Do you feel sometimes like missing your true Self in everyday routines and in your attitudes in relationships? Every time when I introduce the concept of Systemic Constellation Work (SCW) to people who don’t have any direct experience with this method – I do some kind of self-examination, asking … More Authenticity and Systemic Constellation Work
What if an entanglement in relationship is not an obstacle to love flow but a necessary aspect to create deep bonds in love? When I work with my clients on their issues in relationships with themselves and with others – I used to use a word entanglement, with a meaning of something difficult (negative) like … More Entanglements – basic bonds in relationships
How to translate personal experiences? Many philosophers and poets were following that question in history… That question also comes to my mind when I try to describe the method of the Systemic/Family Constellation – to people who never experienced it. Words are beautiful tools (could we even imagine our existence without verbal communication?) but if … More How to translate personal experiences?
What if some invisible, unconscious loyalties linked to ancestors would contribute to our problems in everyday life? What if we couldn’t resolve some problems without connecting them to transgenerational issues? What if our lack of pursuing these issues will cause next generations carrying it on and on? Would it be worth to explore what is … More Invisible loyalties in family system
Working with systemically originated issues by addressing their impact on an individual implicates risk of missing some hidden elements of entanglement. Photo:© Mcbenny In one-to-one counselling therapeutic setting I apply various interventions – depending on many factors appearing in a unique moment my client comes to a session. That is a phenomenological way which includes … More Why I would recommend a constellation? A psychologist’s comment
Systems in our Life - Entanglement and Success 