Entanglements – basic bonds in relationships

What if an entanglement in relationship is not an obstacle to love flow but a necessary aspect to create deep bonds in love?

When I work with my clients on their issues in relationships with themselves and with others – I used to use a word entanglement, with a meaning of something difficult (negative) like a knot in relationship system. But going deeper to the meaning of this word – we could discover deeper layers of love bonding.

Searching internet for a definition of Entanglement – I found a post written by Margaret Rouse (it is pretty long as a quote but so interesting): Entanglement is a term used in quantum theory to describe the way that particles of energy/matter can become correlated to predictably interact with each other regardless of how far apart they are.

Particles, such as photons, electrons, or qubits that have interacted with each other retain a type of connection and can be entangled with each other in pairs, in the process known as correlation. Knowing the spin state of one entangled particle – whether the direction of the spin is up or down – allows one to know that the spin of its mate is in the opposite direction. Even more amazing is the knowledge that, due to the phenomenon of superposition, the measured particle has no single spin direction before being measured, but is simultaneously in both a spin-up and spin-down state. The spin state of the particle being measured is decided at the time of measurement and communicated to the correlated particle, which simultaneously assumes the opposite spin direction to that of the measured particle. Quantum entanglement allows qubits that are separated by incredible distances to interact with each other immediately, in a communication that is not limited to the speed of light. No matter how great the distance between the correlated particles, they will remain entangled as long as they are isolated.

Entanglement is a real phenomenon (Einstein called it “spooky action at a distance”), which has been demonstrated repeatedly through experimentation. The mechanism behind it cannot, as yet, be fully explained by any theory. One proposed theory suggests that all particles on earth were once compacted tightly together and, as a consequence, maintain a connectedness. Much current research is focusing on how to harness the potential of entanglement in developing systems for quantum cryptography and quantum computing. In 1997, Nicholas Gisin and colleagues at the University of Geneva used entangled photons to enable simple – but instantaneous – communication over a distance of seven miles.

Salvador Dali - Galatea
Salvador Dali – Galatea

No matter how great the distance between the correlated particles, they will remain entangled as long as they are isolated.                                                             What an amazing metaphor of Love!

Separation causes isolation, guilt, abandonment, and after all – the state of entanglement.  Love is in opposition to separation; love is a powerful drive force pushing knots of entanglement to find solution and to bring people closer.

It looks to me like quantum physics shows that entanglements are aspects of love, however on the surface they look like blocks (obstacles) in relationships.

That has been confirmed in my working with couples: people start relationship from idealistic romantic affections which will be inevitably wiped off by reality of living together in a long-term relationship. Then they encounter struggles (entanglements rooted in each partner family system) as entry gates to Real Love. Partners feel sense of failure when they approach gates of Real Love and can’t go easy through entanglements – but actually they come closer to their goal! Gates are not the end of the road, just a points to go through (even if that means a crisis state). Without gates of entanglement – there is no entry to the kingdom of Real Love.

Many couples never go to the kingdom of Real Love, struggling forever at gates with issues in relationship which seems to them to be impossible to overcome. If they would only know that issues are not symptoms of failure but necessary tasks in order to find the true love union…

Hania Gorski





2 thoughts on “Entanglements – basic bonds in relationships

  1. I wish I had already passed through this ominous Gate and could look back at the way both my partner and myself finally reached this understanding of relationships. Still stucked in personal views. It has to be simple, I guess. Probably too simple!


  2. Thanks for finding an encouraging way of looking st difficulties as ‘gates’ in a relationship. Some fields have a lot of gates, and it’s good to read it might not be so bad, Karen


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